Some See a Weed, Some See a Wish: How to Practice the Pause When Travel Plans Fail

A dandelion is a fascinating thing. To a manicured lawn, it’s an intruder—a stubborn weed to be pulled. But to anyone who still looks at the world with a bit of wonder, it’s a brilliant white globe of potential. It’s a pocketful of wishes waiting for a single, intentional breath to carry them into the world.

The dandelion didn’t change. Only the eyes looking at it did.

It’s all a matter of perception. And if we aren’t careful, how we choose to see the small things dictates exactly how much unnecessary weight we carry around every single day.

Packing for the Pivot

If you’ve traveled long enough, you know that even the most meticulously planned itinerary is going to hit a snag eventually. Flights get delayed. The weather refuses to cooperate. You end up in a destination that looks entirely different from the glossy brochure.

There is a universal truth in life and in travel: whatever we focus on grows. If we are only looking for the bad, the frustrating, or the inconvenient, that is exactly what will fill our field of view. When negativity takes over, it's easy to become short-tempered. I've found myself snapping at Zion when things go awry, even though these trips are supposed to be about bonding and creating core memories—not remembering that time I lost my temper because the kids in the cabin next door were still running amok and screaming at 2:00 AM.

I had to actively practice this mindset shift during my recent cruise to Bermuda. To be honest, this trip was a poop show from start to finish and has already been the subject of an entire blog post (you can check that out here). I had to constantly remind myself that if I didn’t consciously change my attitude, the whole trip would be a bust—and let's be real, I'm far too frugal to spend that much money on complete misery. I had to actively refocus and seek something that would spark joy when I wanted to just close the blinds to the Bermuda sun and curl up under the covers.

Being able to practice the pivot in the moment is what saves a family vacation.

Take a trip Zion and I took to Seattle, for example. The weather completely turned, and it poured rain the entire day. Rather than trying to force a miserable sightseeing trek downtown in a downpour, we pivoted. We stayed in our room, grabbed some snacks, and spent the day playing the card games we’d packed. It wasn't the Seattle itinerary I had written down, but the laughter lingers. An afternoon that could have been a cold, wet washout became a warm, fuzzy core memory.

Choosing to Travel Light

It’s about recognizing that two things can be true at the exact same time: a situation can be challenging, and there can be a seed of beauty, growth, or freedom hidden right inside it.

Choosing to see the good isn't about toxic positivity or pretending the ground beneath us is perfectly smooth. It’s about knowing you have the power to choose what you focus on. If you only look at life through a camera lens waiting for the flawless, postcard-perfect shot, you’re going to miss the actual magic.

Take my travel photos with Zion, for example. If I only valued the serene, perfectly posed moments, I would have deleted half our vacation album. On our Alaska cruise, he hit his absolute limit with my camera, officially went on strike, and refused to participate.

So, instead of fighting it, I just leaned into the mutiny and snapped his open rebellion.

The result was pure gold—including this gem where he looks like he's trying to swallow the Pacific Ocean out of sheer teenager exhaustion. In the moment, it was a mini-standoff, but looking back, I got something infinitely better than a forced smile: pure, unfiltered, authentic life. It’s the perfect reminder that when you stop chasing the picture-perfect "wish," you realize the messy, funny reality is exactly what you wanted all along.

This doesn’t just apply to airport terminals, cruise ports, or teenage photo strikes; it’s how we navigate the everyday landscape of our lives. The daily friction, the messy routines, the quiet moments where we feel like we’re running on fumes—they all carry a choice. We can view them as obligations weighing us down, or we can look at them as the very spaces where we are learning to fly.

Practice the Pause

The next time you find yourself stuck in a moment that feels heavy, frustrating, or completely off-course, I want to encourage you to practice the pause.

Stop. Breathe. Step back just a second. For me, that pause usually includes a quick prayer to center myself and hand over the control I never really had anyway. Whether for you that means prayer, meditation, or just a few deep, intentional breaths, it gives you the space to reset.

Once you’ve paused, ask yourself: Am I looking at a weed, or am I looking at a wish?

The landscape might stay exactly the same, but the moment you change your lens, you change your entire destination. Let’s choose to travel light, let go of the friction, and see just how far a little bit of wonder can carry us.

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Have you ever had a vacation photo disaster turn into your favorite family memory? Or a travel detour that turned out better than the original plan? Drop your favorite "weed turned into a wish" stories in the comments below!

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